"We didn't [win in Maine], and there's a simple reason. Our message to protect our civil rights is about us, not about all of America. We've failed to make our cause a universal battle for civil rights. A message about us also defines the battle as one being waged against them."

--Sue O'Connell, Bay Windows

Michele O'Mara is a gay couples therapist and life coach. Her relationship advice column updates each Tuesday.

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